So it turns out it’s not just my snoring that’s keeping Connie up at night. It’s noises “that sound like you’re upset,” says my mother. Allan recently told me that I cry or startle or semi-scream in my sleep on a regular basis. The incidents I think of as rare are not, in fact, rare. What’s rare is my memory of them.
I feel I must apologize for ever telling a fellow PTSD sufferer that it eventually goes away. I was 21 years old when I was raped. If it hasn’t gone away by now, it obviously never will. Thank (Read more…)
Stacey May Fowles has written a incisive, biting, and definitive piece about shaming men who rape. I can scarcely quote from it (although I will), because every word is not only necessary but perfect. Please join me in reading this stellar essay, and in cheering for Fowles and every survivor of sexual assault, and in calling out every Josh Lueke we can find.
May I add, too, that this essay explains exactly why I will never stop saying animal torturer and dog murderer every time I hear or read the name Michael Vick. A blog reader recently told me I (Read more…)
Allan came home from one of his used-book sale sprees with copies of both Freakonomics and Super Freakonomics. I had read so many excerpts from, and reviews of, these books over the years, and their appearance was a reminder to actually read them myself.
You’re probably familiar with the general premise of Freakonomics. Steven D. Levitt is an economics professor at the University of Chicago, and Stephen J. Dubner is a well-known writer and editor. The two teamed up to write an unusual mix of story, statistics, and surprises for a popular audience, using research and statistics to draw unusual (Read more…)
Soraya Chemaly places Dylan Farrow’s claim in the context of rampant child sexual abuse, and the persistent myth of false rape claims. Dylan Farrow is in a situation that thousands deal with every day. In general, people want to look away, muttering some variant of “he said/she said.” But, that phrase implies an equivalence where we have a gross imbalance, because “he” is more trusted, virtually always, in every capacity, than “she.”
There is a substantial body of research documenting our preference for thinking of men as more competent and moral. Researchers who studied gendered speech patterns found (Read more…)
Wmtc friend and reader Dharma Seeker writes: Some of my discussion groups have been blowing up since Dylan Farrow’s open letter to actors in Woody Allen films. My brain is muddled trying to sort out the various issues. I’d love your thoughts and hoped you might blog about it, although if you’ve not read it yet Dylan’s open letter should come with a trigger warning.
If the allegations are true, does that mean that actors have a moral obligation to boycott his films?
Do movie lovers have a moral obligation to boycott his films?
Where do we draw the line (Read more…)
We’ve just seen “The Central Park Five,” the Ken Burns film about five young men of colour who were wrongfully arrested, indicted, and convicted of rape and attempted murder, and who served seven, and in one case, thirteen years, in prison for a crime they didn’t commit.
There was virtually no evidence linking the five teenagers to the crime, and enormous amounts of evidence showing they could not possibly have committed it. They were convicted on the strength of illegally obtained, coerced, false confessions.
In one sense, this story is one of the oldest in the United States. As former (Read more…)
Dear Richard Dawkins,
If the sexual abuse you experienced as a child did not leave you with lasting scars, that’s very fortunate for you. However, you have no right to speak for anyone but yourself. Your insensitive remarks may cause survivors of sexual abuse great pain and they may confirm perpetrators’ rationalizations of their own abuse.
So do us all a favour and shut the fuck up.
A survivor in solidarity with all survivors everywhere
Manitoba deputy premier sorry for ‘white people’ remark Premier used phrase ‘do-good white people’ to describe women’s shelter in Winnipeg CBC News Posted: Aug 23, 2013 12:21 PM CT Last Updated: Aug 23, 2013 5:23 PM CT
Well it does suck that a scantily-clothed group/person would be raising money for a women’s shelter..oh, wait… This harkens back to the bad old days where it was thought, even believed, that rape and violence against women was motivated by sex, you know, the short skirt syndrome? Violence is violence, and who better to raise funds for the shelter tan (Read more…)
by: Canadian Women’s Foundation | Press Release:
National Omnibus reveals that Canadians still blame women for being sexually assaulted
TORONTO, July 9, 2013 – With summer in full swing, Canadians have packed away their sweaters and are enjoying drinks on the patio. However, according to a new survey* conducted by the Canadian Women’s Foundation, many Canadians believe that women need to be careful about what they wear and how much alcohol they consume – 19 per cent of the respondents believe that women may provoke or encourage sexual assault when they are drunk. Of these, nearly one-quarter (23 per cent) (Read more…)
Richard Hughes-Political Blogger
Canadians have been hearing about wrongdoing within the ranks if the RCMP for far too long. Now, finally a class action lawsuit commences on behalf of women who have had their careers ruined and lives and well being denied.
It is disconcerting that our national police force whose reputation was once a source of pride and purpose has become engulfed in allegations of exploitation, sexual assault and abuse.
There are a great many dedicated officers worthy of our support and respect. But overall the force that is overdue for a major and significant shakeup.
Canadian Press Reports on the (Read more…)
By: Obert Madondo | The Canadian Progressive: New York news blog Gawker yesterday revealed the existence of a video showing Toronto Mayor Rob Ford smoking crack cocaine. The video was taken within the last six months, allegedly by the city’s Somali drug dealers. Gawker editor John Cook reported that he received a tip from [...]
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I feel some kind of obligation to write about Rehtaeh Parsons. Not because I imagine I have something important to add to the conversation, just because she is on my mind so much, and when that happens, I must write.
For non-Canadian readers, this is why we know the name Rehtaeh Parsons. From an excellent post by Christine Salek at PolicyMic: Let me know if you’ve heard this one before.
A teenage girl attends a party, drinks alcohol, and then is gang raped by four male classmates. The boys take photos of the assault and share them with their school,
. . . → Read More: wmtc: why i haven’t blogged about rehtaeh parsons and how the story makes me feel
By: Obert Madondo | The Canadian Progressive: On Friday, hactivist collective Anonymous announced it had a confession from one of the boys who gang-raped Rehtaeh Parsons, the 17-year old Canadian girl who committed suicide last week. Anonymous’ involvement in the case undoubtedly pressured the RCMP, politicians and other authorities to get serious about [...]
The post Rehtaeh Parsons: Top Liberal strategist asked Anonymous to intervene appeared first on The Canadian Progressive.
By: Obert Madondo | The Canadian Progressive: Rehtaeh Parsons, a 17-year old Canadian teen, committed suicide last week after being gang-raped and shamed online. Anonymous says one of the three boys involved in the assault has confessed and is willing to name his alleged accomplices. The hactivist collective issued the following statement on Friday: FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE [...]
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“Colleges and universities must take a holistic approach to address violence against women” By: Obert Madondo | The Canadian Progressive: The Ontario chapter of the Canadian Federation of Students today launched a toolkit that will help Canadian and organization to address sexual violence at the province’s colleges and universities. The toolkit, a collection of best [...]
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It’s Opening Day!
It’s always a long, cold winter for a baseball-only fan, but winters for Red Sox fans have been especially long and cold lately. When was the last time we saw a meaningful game? (Don’t answer that.) I lost interest ’round about July last season, unusual for me, but there’s something about losing every night that doesn’t inspire me to plan my life around the team’s schedule.
But that’s all behind us now. Spring is here, and with it, a fresh start, new hope, and who knows, maybe a half-decent, rebuilding kind of season for the Sox.
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What can we do to help young men respect women, recognize consent, and have healthy sexual relationships? Teach them kindness to others—and the courage to go against the crowd. By: Kim Simon | Mama By the Bay When Max was just a few months old, I sat cross-legged on the floor with him [...]
The post No More Steubenvilles: How To Raise Boys to be Kind Men appeared first on The Canadian Progressive | News & Analysis.
By: Obert Madondo | The Canadian Progressive: That’s right, the Mayor of Toronto has a serious drinking problem. Actually, one that calls for rehab. The Toronto Star says Rob Ford’s drinking problem is so seriously that, since he was elected in 2010, his inner circle has repeatedly urged him enter rehab “over pattern of [...]
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Yesterday, March 19, 2013, was the 10th anniversary of the US invasion of Iraq. Looking for something to post, I sorted through about a dozen essays and stories online, but nothing reflected the anger and sadness and disgust and urgency and frustration I feel about everything connected with the ongoing Iraq War. I didn’t write something myself, because it feels like I’ve said everything I have to say a good 50 times over.
I’m going to leave my post to Tomas Young. Young is an Iraq war veteran, and he is dying. He was profiled in the documentary “Body of
. . . → Read More: wmtc: ten years on: hate mail to bush and cheney from a dying iraq war veteran and war resister
By Canadian Association of Sexual Assault Centres | Feb. 18, 2013: “This (Human Rights Watch) report confirms frontline evidence of sexist and racist violence endured by Aboriginal women. Frontline centers have recorded and protested this violence over many years,” says Lee Lakeman for CASAC. Since 2001 CASAC has been focusing particular attention on these issues as a crisis READ MORE
Ensure Accountability for Police Misconduct, Indigenous Women’s Safety By Human Rights Watch (Press Release)| Feb. 13, 2013: VANCOUVER – Comments by Prime Minister Stephen Harper and the Royal Canadian Mounted Police (RMCP) on February 14, 2013, fail to address the core issue of a lack of security that prevents indigenous women and girls from filing complaints of police abuse, READ MORE
If Brazeau stays on as an independent Senator, he’ll cost Canadian taxpayers at lease $7-million by the time he retires approximately 37 years from today. By Obert Madondo | The Canadian Progressive, Feb. 8, 2013: Conservative Sen. Patrick Brazeau’s charges of assault and sexual assault offer Prime Minister Stephen Harper the opportunity to do the right thing concerning his much-touted READ MORE
Innocent until proven guilty and all that, but things ain’t lookin’ good for the Brazman:
Senator Patrick Brazeau will be formally charged with domestic assault and sexual assault later this morning, following a brief appearance at the courthouse in Gatineau, Que.
Brazeau, who appeared in court wearing a black suit and white dress shirt, did not have his lawyer present for his first appearance at about 9:15 a.m. ET Friday.
Also (re: this):
If at #CTV's report is so important/relevant/factual, I'm sure they will look for me tomorrow in Parliament. I'll report back tomorrow.— SenPatrickBrazeau
. . . → Read More: bastard.logic: Stick a Fork in Senator Brazeau….
In the current issue of Harper’s, there is a long feature by author Barry Lopez about the sexual abuse he endured as a child, and his path of recovery and healing. It may be the best first-person account of such trauma you will ever see.
Right now it is only available on the newstand or online by subscription. Harper’s makes most of their features available online eventually. However, if you have a personal or professional interest in child sexual abuse, I highly recommend buying a copy of the January 2013 issue of Harper’s as soon as you can.