I wanted to chime in on a facebook discussion about that list (a man made a spreadsheet of his wife’s excuses for refusing sex), but it wasn’t started by an official FB friend, so I couldn’t comment on it. I’m not sure the etiquette on this, so I’ll just keep everyone anonymous. Here’s the opener attached to a link that suggests women never owe men sex:
This analogy seems to suggest that, like a game of badminton in which nobody actually hits the ball is not actually a game of badminton, marriage in which nobody has sex isn’t actually a (Read more…)
“Butt sex should never be a surprise.”
So begins the very catchy tune that opens Chlamydia dell’Arte: A Sex-Ed Burlesque. Alternating skits and burlesque numbers with vox pop video segements, this show aims to “educate through laughter”, and to some degree it succeeds.
The safe sex aspects of the show are largely limited to condom use, making it a useful refresher for anyone who sleeps with men and hasn’t had any sex ed since high school. (It’s worth pointing out here that the artists are based in the United States, so while it seems like basic information to a (Read more…)
The idea that somehow pornography is good for society, or that it serves some sort of preventative function for males, or (insert rationalization here), make me ill. Pornography, like religion, has no place in a civilized society. I found this awesome quote while browsing the interwebs and I agree with much of what it has to say about pornography, the porn industry and human sexuality. Thank you Jasmina for writing so eloquently about this important topic.
I would like you to know, in a nutshell, that I am against the porn industry.
I am against white (Read more…)
I can understand the anxiety about the vaccine. I can. Something that is intimately tied to our daughters sexuality is really freaky especially when we’re talking about children that we don’t even want to think about as sexual creatures.
Sherlock & John
I watched the first episode of the new season of Sherlock last night. There’s a sub-plot with no spoilers here: John Watson gets engaged to Mary. Mrs. Hudson, the landlady, is shocked that he’s engaged to a woman since he and Sherlock were obviously so close – and so soon after his passing and all. John vehemently objects to the insinuation that he is now, or ever was, gay.
In class before the break I read a bit about Montaigne’s affection for La Boétie, and the very first comment I got from a pretty enlightened group (Read more…)
Labiaplasty is on the rise. Who knew?
There’s an article in the Guardian in which Daisy Buchanan argues that we can’t blame porn for this rush towards plastic surgery to pretty-up our lady bits because it’s everywhere; in mainstream music videos we can see about as much as porn shows.
I’m not sure what bands Buchanan follows, but I haven’t see much in the way of actual labias in my regular, mainstream video-watching, nor in any of the movies I watch – and I watch a lot of movies. Even Miley Cyrus doesn’t actually show her junk. So, if (Read more…)
It is nice every once and awhile see how religious thinking, in this case, opposing contraception (let’s not mention abortion because women in control of their reproductive destinies really is just satanic) looks like if we follow through on the policy.
Filed under: Education Tagged: Contraception, DWR PSA, Religion, sex
“Or maybe me loving my body is about you. And how you feel about how I feel about my body. If I tell you that “I love my body. I love my freckles. I even love my sagging ass because it’s on my body.” You’ll pat me on the back and tell me that I’m getting it. And I’m not making anyone uncomfortable by complaining about how much I dislike being held up to fucked up beauty standards and how it fucks with my head.” -Elyse from Skepchick
“Micro-brothels” in BC: Are we still criminalizing prostitution? The short answer: YES. Now the long answer: I’ve seen a couple articles in Vancouver’s 24hr News about how micro-brothels are a booming and we should be really scared because micro-brothels are dangerous. See here and here. First article: Sex-worker activist Sue Davis said buying and selling …
“When I asked male interview subjects what they would like to do in bed, “ejaculation on a woman’s face” was most often at the top of their lists. But when I asked them what the attraction of this act was and whether it meant anything, their initial response was puzzlement. They had never given it much thought. With time for reflection, however, most came up with answers very similar to those of the pornographers I interviewed: it is about controlling women, doing something disgusting to them. It’s like spitting or urinating on them. Thus something unsettling about gender relationships (Read more…)
It’s an interesting moral dilemma to have a judge decide a child has access to a father when the only contact the mother and father had was a sexual assault producing this child. This isn’t entirely the story here. In this article, it could be a case of statutory rape. It’s possible there was a relationship for a while, that led to vocally consensual, yet not actually legal, sex. It’s not clear from the article if it was a guy jumping out of the bushes or a romantic tryst gone wrong or something in between.
The young mother, H.T. (Read more…)
I’m sure the Saskatoon Police do a lot of good work. They’ve really cleaned up their image since the 1990s, and it’s been decades since they’ve reportedly given anyone a [deadly] Starlight Tour. Unfortunately, a new frontier of ignorant neglect has popped up. Saskatoon Police are not taking the solicitation of lone women in cabs very seriously.
“Take the cab with another person, with a friend,” said [Saskatoon police spokeswoman Alyson] Edwards.
Absurd! Victim blaming much? Also, have you ever managed to share a cab with a friend so you both end up at home while neither is alone in (Read more…)
Here’s how to let the NSA know when you’re having sex:
1.) Buy a Nike (or related) workout monitor, or keep your (smart) cell phone (or tablet) on your person or the soft surface where you are engaged in intercourse. 2.) Ensure the workout arm band or cell phone is turned on and uploading your statistics to the Net.
You’re done. You’re an accidental exhibitionist in the NSA’s all seeing electronic eyes.
I’ve described cell phones as “digital leashes” for spouses, for years. It’s not too far off from the truth, is it?
-Not wired to the (Read more…)
Here’s a story you don’t hear every day. That’s the fun of costumes, and prudery. A man threw a dick head onto the ground, and the vagina tried to calm the situation down.
A hard street performance to pull off.
(Photo care of central somerset gazette)
That man, and that cop who broke up the street performance, sound like they are both wankers (not that there’s anything wrong with that).
I went to a history conference, and one of the PhDs at the front was talking about the common occurrence of silence during tragedy. And, while those around me discussed WWII, and the Iran-Iraq war, and internment of the Japanese in Canada, I started thinking more about how uncomfortable people are talking about rape.
It all fit together for me largely because of a woman I once met, a friend’s mom, who had lived in a concentration camp in Poland. She had nine kids, and two were born there, while she was separated from her husband. The guards routinely took women (Read more…)
And another one gone – a victim of assault and revenge porn enacted and filmed by a bunch of teenaged boys who had more power than they might have ever imagined: they could kill from a distance. As Elizabeth Renzetti says of these double-barrel assaults, they are, “not just an act of violence but a spectator sport.” And here we thought we had come so far from the bloodlust days of the Colosseum.
The act isn’t dissimilar from torturing an animal and showing pictures to people. It’s a behaviour that is absolutely depraved. Who looks at those types of (Read more…)
A man was sexually assaulted by four women in Toronto, and the story is make the facebook rounds. I hate to say “of course,” but of course people think it’s hilarious. Here are some choice comments directly copied and pasted without names – but these were all written by men (or, I suppose, people posing as men):
“Lucky basturd!” “Get any phone numbers?” “Dayum…And I try to look suspicious to female security at an Airport just so I can get frisked.” “where is this club ? whats the cover charge ? will the women hurt you if you (Read more…)
An article in the G&M today expresses concerns with the “hookup culture” of university students. There’s a big fear that casual sex will create “a drastic divide between physical intimacy and emotional intimacy,” and that people will see human bodies as disposable and “become incapable of creating ‘valuable and real connections’.” The author goes on to quote researchers who have concerns about the quality of the sex as well.
I think there’s a bigger problem that they’ve missed: the connection between physical intimacy and emotional intimacy to begin with. That fact that we see love primarily as a (Read more…)
What can we do to help young men respect women, recognize consent, and have healthy sexual relationships? Teach them kindness to others—and the courage to go against the crowd. By: Kim Simon | Mama By the Bay When Max was just a few months old, I sat cross-legged on the floor with him [...]
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This is what misogyny looks like. A lot of you may have heard me use the word “misogyny” before and were either confused or found it too harsh for what I was describing. Yes, misogyny basically means “hatred for women” (as opposed to Philogyny- the fondness, love or admiration of women). Yes, misogyny might sound …
On the face of it Saint Valentine is a pretty odd fellow, after all how many saints have days promoting procreation named after them?
There really is only one other figure who shares such a dichotomy, who like St.Valentine had one of the most holiest of titles yet himself was the most profane. He too asks, with albeit more subtlety but equal enticements, “Will you be mine?” It is by chance that this fiery fellow is also after the heart, the abode and symbol, of the soul.
Both St.Valentine and this once angelic figure are intimately associated
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So, the Pope, Benedict (the something number) is quitting. Is he crazy? Probably. Who would quit being a supreme religious world leader unless they were suffering from dementia and are unable to continue?
So we have a religious scandal today; now all we need is a big political and sex scandal too, and the trinity of forbidden conversation topics will be unavoidable during idle conversation (*cackles maniacally*).
by Obert Madondo | The Canadian Progressive, Feb. 6, 2013: Last year, a still-unpublished erotic Canadian novel created quite a stir at the prestigious Frankfurt Book Fair. The Toronto Star speculated that the novel, written under the pseudonym L. Marie Adeline, was Canada’s answer to British author E.L James’ blockbuster Fifty Shades of Grey trilogy. That the writer was broadcast journalist, author and co-host READ MORE
Winston Churchill is credited with an exchange that when adapted illustrates, not only the similarities between prostitution and politics, but current inconsistencies in the popular view of our Canadian government.
Churchill: “Madam, would you sleep with me for five million pounds?” Socialite: “My goodness, Mr. Churchill… Well, I suppose… we would have to discuss terms, of course… “ Churchill: “Would you sleep with me for five pounds?” Socialite: “Mr. Churchill, what kind of woman do you think I am?!” Churchill: “Madam, we’ve already established that. Now we are haggling about the price
The Canadian adaptation, not as
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Imagine the embarrassment of being a teenager again, except now your source of torment is not limited to forced school interaction with ruthless bullies, but now occurs at home and around the WWW too.
Sexual attitudes need to quickly change, and treatment of bullies needs to radically evolve if we’re to save kids like Amanda Todd from social torture and early deaths.
Two years ago a child at King George School committed suicide due to #bullying, from what I hear the kids are at it again #PrairieSouth— Robert Thomas (@Rhino_Bob) January 09, 2013