There are many things that make one happy, but what if our fundamental approach is wrong? Harvard psychologist Dan Gilbert looks into other ways of thinking about happiness and the overall take we have on our self.
“Human beings are works in progress that mistakenly think they’re finished.” Dan Gilbert shares recent research on a phenomenon he calls the “end of history illusion,” where we somehow imagine that the person we are right now is the person we’ll be for the rest of time. Hint: that’s not the case.
Pope Francis may still be immersed in a certain amount of traditional Catholic misogyny, but he is nonetheless a breath of fresh air for the church, and for that matter, Christianity. In a recent interview he offered 10 tips to achieve happiness. The tips are worth repeating not only because they make good sense but because they are rather surprising coming from the world’s top Christian:
I used to hate being alone. I remember as a teenager, aching for the phone to ring, rifling through my closet for something ‘cool’ to wear, wandering the halls of my university residence listening for signs of music and laughter. I was restless and bored being by myself.
But not anymore. My searching spirit was quieted by years of solitude caring for my children. Nicholas is 25 now and Natalie is 22, but for many of their growing up years, I was with Nick in the hospital or I was home waiting for the next crisis. This forced confinement prompted (Read more…)
GC and I were walking to the bus stop the other morning and he asked if I wanted to do the 100-Day Happiness Challenge with him.
“Absolutely,” I said. “What is it?”
So here’s what it is. You can start anytime. You register. Every day you take a picture of something that makes you happy that day. It doesn’t have to make you happy all day. It doesn’t have to make anybody else happy. It’s not a competition. Just one thing that made you happy for a moment of your day. You post that picture to whichever social media (Read more…)
It’s sometimes really difficult for me to come to terms with realizing that there are some really horrible people in the world. Like, not just ignorant but just really hateful. […]
Ok, it’s that time. Time to put down the pen, or in this case, the keyboard; start cooking dinner – very slowly, for maximum flavour – and cut the grass in the golden sun of the late afternoon… And, crank up the rock and roll on the wireless headphones! Whoo-hoo! After a satisfying and truly […]
Ask Wild” Willie Seeley of Manahawkin, New Jersey. He is a lotto winner. He wants his life back.
Willie Seeley poses for a photo outside his home in Manahawkin, N.J., on Sept. 20, with the new GMC pick-up truck he bought with winnings from a Powerball jackpot he shared in August.
“Wild” Willie Seeley of Manahawkin, New Jersey, has one piece of advice for the winner of last week’s $400 million Powerball pot in South Carolina: Run. “Just disappear,” he said, speaking from hard-won experience. “Get lost while you still can.”
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In today’s G&M, Jared Bland writes from a perspective I’ve been taking lately as well.
“Despite seeming reasonable in other areas of my life, I believe that we are quite likely living in or near the fabled end times….[I]t’s becoming easier and easier to feel that the shadow hanging over us isn’t just another massive rain cloud. That it’s something bigger, something worse. And that it’s moving in awfully quickly…..I’m convinced that things would be a lot better, were we to start to expect the end. We fear it, we suspect it, but we need to embrace (Read more…)
Here are some screen captures for your consideration.
CBC’s Jeremy Eaton took the video as part of his coverage of a great announcement.
The provincial government is putting money into a pilot project that would let some personal care homes take in residents needing higher levels of care than the home might currently be rated for. That’s a big thing given the rapidly aging population and the shortage of beds for all the people that are going to need them.
Lately I don’t feel like watching news as they are too depressing – wars, murders, famine, natural disasters, frauds, and so on. I thought I will share, with my readers, Buddha’s wisdom on happiness:
“Thousands of candles can be lit from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened.Happiness never decreases by being shared.”
The book Learned Optimism: How to Change Your Mind and Your Life by Dr. Martin Seligman is not new, but it is to me. For others who have not heard about it before, it looks like an uplifting read. The central thesis of the book is to essentially learn what a worthwhile life is for you and to un-learn the other things: learn optimism.
‘Happiness’ is a scientifically unwieldy notion, but there are three different forms of it if you can pursue. For the ‘Pleasant Life,’ you aim to have as much positive emotion as possible and learn the skills (Read more…)
It’s TED Talk Tuesday on 350orbust. Here’s a fascinating TEDx talk by South African trainer and speaker Bruce Muzik whose “passion is having people experience unprecedented freedom and happiness, through being Authentic.”
Most of the articles on Cracked.com make you into a crazed euphoria seeking serial clicking monkey. Not necessarily a bad permutation, but almost always a drain on the productive use of ones time. However, I really enjoyed this article on the misconception we hold about what will make us happy in life and found it to be quite thought provoking and informative. The first bit is here, the rest can be found at Cracked.com.
5 Things You Think Will Make You Happy (But Won’t)
By: Jane Jones, David Wong February 17, 200
“If 80s movies
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The Design Exchange in Toronto has invited Stefan Sagmeister to explore what happiness is all about. The artist has done some great album artwork and is now exploring how to bring happiness via stats and images. It looks like a good show!
In the spirit of design week, join us at the DX for Stefan Sagmeister: The Happy Show. Running until March 3rd, the site-specific exhibition has “hijacked” the DX and converted it into a happy place complete with bright yellow walls upon which Sagmeister’s very own maxims for happiness have been personally handwritten. From the restrooms to the elevators,
I am thinking about this task I set before me. But what is this task? Every time I define it, I eventually realize that my solution is disconnected from life.
This is happening more and more. When I examine a problem, and break it down into its essential parts, understand why, the answer is always the same. The difference is on the surface and it begins to disappear as you go deeper into it.
To know what is correct, one must know the goal that is sought. The same is true for public policy, which is further burdened by the
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Many wisdom traditions encourage a path or process orientation rather than a destination or product orientation to living well.
Happiness makes for a poor goal.
It’s not particularly well-defined. What is happiness? How much happiness is enough to be happy with – to not eventually be let down by?
The steps to achieving it are not particularly well understood. Common paths attempted to achieve happiness include religiosity, conventional success, and family living.
Religiosity and piety offer no assurance of happiness. While religious people en masse tend to present as being happier than nonreligious people, there are plenty of religious people
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This is a video about what this holiday season is meant to be about – love and compassion, even in the face of intolerance and hate: * EveryoneMatters.2012.com
Bhutan is a small country with a big idea that can change the world. For many years now gross national happiness is how the country monitors its progress, which is the opposite to how other countries measure success (which is from the quantity of money exchanged).
With a world population more knowledgable about environmental destruction there is an increasing concern that wealth accumulation outranks the needs of people. Gross national happiness can change how we measure progress.
Since 1971, the country has rejected GDP as the only way to measure progress. In its place, it has championed a new approach
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His Holiness the Dalai Lama speaking on compassion and it’s connection to finding purpose in life.
This should get you smiling…
It’s TED Talk Tuesday on 350orbust, and Rory Sutherland the Ad Man is back. His message is essentially the same as in his 2009 TED Talk, but it bears repeating that our perception of an event or a circumstance is more important than the “re… . . . → Read More: 350 or bust: Perspective Is Everything