The blank page stares up at me, “World AIDS Day 2016”. That will be Thursday. It’s not like it used to be when life was much more urgent, desperate. I think of the dead. I still sorely miss my friends, friends from our twenties and thirties. Gone. It’s like Remembrance Day, but I don’t like . . . → Read More: My journey with AIDS…and more!: World AIDS Day 2016
As heard on CBC Radio’s Metro Morning today Wood Haven Country Lodge in the Kawarthas opens its heart next weekend to women and children from area shelters, offering them a get-away in the busy holiday season. David explained to Matt Galloway that when his partner died of AIDS several years ago, he decided to extend . . . → Read More: My journey with AIDS…and more!: Generosity
Bright and early this morning, before I could slip into dishonesty, I volunteered to my diabetes specialist that I was depressed. Actually it was more like joining in conversation with her as she wondered aloud if any ‘black dogs’ were about. There’s always something cathartic about admitting this after circular self-arguments about whether I am . . . → Read More: My journey with AIDS…and more!: No offence to ‘black dogs’ but I got real today
Facebook, with its at-best superficial ways of linking me to my world, has taken me away from greater reflection possible in this blog so…I’m back – on my journey here. The past few weeks I have been involved with the Youth/Elders Project, a joint effort of Buddies in Bad Times Theatre, the 519 Community Centre . . . → Read More: My journey with AIDS…and more!: I’m back, breaking my blogging fast
Good Friends vs Bad FriendsTelling the difference between good friends and unhelpful friends is especially important for caregivers. Caregivers simply don’t have the dual luxuries of boundless time and energy to invest in friendships that are not… . . . → Read More: THE CAREGIVERS’ LIVING ROOM A Blog by Donna Thomson: GOOD FRIENDS VS BAD FRIENDS
This past holiday season was particularly wonderful for us on account of Nick’s excellent pain management as well as the celebration of love in our family. But the icing on the cake was the wedding of our old friend, John Bilder. It was about 199… . . . → Read More: THE CAREGIVERS’ LIVING ROOM A Blog by Donna Thomson: An Awesome Wedding and a Lifetime of Friendship
In times of hardship or pain, looking at the people we love can be powerful medicine. Parents and caregivers need to be on the receiving end of the loving gaze of family and friends too. Here’s what got me thinking about eye contact: I happened to notice a billboard with a photo of a beautiful but destitute . . . → Read More: THE CAREGIVERS’ LIVING ROOM A Blog by Donna Thomson: ONE SIMPLE, POWERFUL WAY TO SUPPORT CAREGIVERS – My Guest Blog Post on The Mighty
In his book of aphorisms, Human, All Too Human, Friedrich Nietzsche described “marriage as a long conversation” like this: When entering a marriage, one should ask the question: do you think you will be able to have good conversations with this woman right into old age? Everything else in marriage transitory, but most of the . . . → Read More: Scripturient: Blog & Commentary: Thirty years later…
We’ve all heard plenty about the so-called “friend zone”, which is where a person you want to date, just wants to be friends, and somehow that’s unfair and bad and mean. Let me tell you about its converse, the Un-Friend Zone.
A while back at work, we got a new deskside support/IT guy. He quickly . . . → Read More: Dead Wild Roses: The Un-Friend Zone
Sujata, the name given to her by the previous human in her life, Kevin, is Sanskrit meaning “from a good family origin”; “Su” means “good”, “Jatakas” means “of good origins” or “well born”. The breed was also known as “archangel” in its early generations. Sujata has been hiding whenever I’ve given her the opportunity . . . → Read More: My journey with AIDS…and more!: Meet Sujata, Russian Blue beauty
A love story. Get your hanky ready. * If you want to watch a longer version of this story, check out the video below.
Friendship can come in the most unexpected ways. (So do snacks.) Alltop is one big snack of humor!
When I am in any kind of pain, I want people around me to look me in the eye.
Here’s what got me thinking about eye contact: a couple of weeks ago, I was sitting in a dermatology clinic chatting with the resident and a young medical student. It was all very jolly until . . . → Read More: THE CAREGIVERS’ LIVING ROOM – A Blog by Donna Thomson: Please Look At Me
Don’t walk behind me; I may not lead. Don’t walk in front of me; I may not follow. Just walk beside me and be my friend. Albert Camus
Professional caregivers are trained to avoid personal relationships with their clients. There are lots of good reasons why this policy is standard in health care . . . → Read More: THE CAREGIVERS’ LIVING ROOM – A Blog by Donna Thomson: Can Paid Caregivers Also Be Friends?
Some friends are for life. Some friends stick with you through thick and thin. Friendship is a really, really big deal for everyone, but especially for our loved ones with disabilities or age-related vulnerability. It may be that someone with a cognitive impairment cannot carry on a conversation, let alone forge and maintain friendly . . . → Read More: THE CAREGIVERS’ LIVING ROOM – A Blog by Donna Thomson: The Meaning of Friendship
I’m up at our family cottage on a lake in the mountains of Quebec. Yesterday it rained, so naturally I gravitated to the bookshelf in the corner by the fireplace. I found this 1910 copy of “The Gift of Friendship and Other Verses”.
Let me share with you one verse that perfectly . . . → Read More: THE CAREGIVERS’ LIVING ROOM – A Blog by Donna Thomson: The Gift of Friendship or The Caregiver Ties That Bind
An amazing story of best friends, a man and a crocodile:
Skimming my home-town newspapers’ web sites I noticed that this is Prom weekend for some of the high schools in the area. Tomorrow is Father’s Day. I’m not sure if the two occasions shared the same weekend in my time. Some quick math, all in my head mind you, and I realized that it’s a . . . → Read More: My journey with AIDS…and more!: Prom Night and Father’s Day