The Ashley Madison hack is bad news for cheaters—and just as terrible for everyone else – By Harris O’Malley
It’s like the royal family: glamorize them so we can bash them down to earth.
A bit of a mindfuck.
If Ashley Madison were a straight infidelity website among heterosexual couples in a world of simple heterosex, then yes, let’s judge all these people. Because we love to judge.
But if you’re interested to see what kind of other people use[d] Ashley Madison for arguably not so black-and-white sinful reasons, you may realize that quite a few people are getting hosed (Read more…)
Every once and awhile something good bubbles up from the seething mass known as tumblr. This is a good summary of what sex and gender are and how they interact in our society.
“It seems like on here at tumblr there’s a lot of misinformation going around. people are using sex and gender interchangeably as if they mean the same thing. There’s a lot of unclear information and everything seems rally vague and distorted so the goal of this post is to help clear some of this up.
What are the differences between sex and gender?
The (Read more…)
“(Asked about his stance on pornography, in response to perceived endorsement of Hustler, who had tricked Chomsky into giving an interview for the magazine.)
Pornography is humiliation and degradation of women. It’s a disgraceful activity. I don’t want to be associated with it. Just take a look at the pictures. I mean, women are degraded as vulgar sex objects. That’s not what human beings are. I don’t even see anything to discuss.
(Interviewer: But didn’t performers choose to do the job and get paid?)
The fact that people agree to it and are paid, is about as convincing (Read more…)
The Creation of Patriarchy, Volume 1 (1986/ 1987) by Gerda Lerner
Filed under: Feminism Tagged: DWR Feminist Quote of the Day, Feminism
This quote is from the Harper’s Magazine archive. We Do Abortions Here: A Nurse’s Story, is a powerful piece that goes beyond the well worn positions that are still being dragged about today. I recommend a full reading, go to Harper’s Archive to read it.
“Women have abortions because they are too old, and too young, too poor, and too rich, too stupid and too smart. I see women who berate themselves with violent emotions for their first and only abortion, and others who return three times, five times, hauling two or three children, who cannot remember (Read more…)
“Advertisers must convince young women that they are in need of constant improvement—largely to get and keep boys’ attention—without threatening young women’s views of themselves as intelligent, self-directed, and equal. Buzz words like “empowerment,” “self-determination,” and “independence” are sprinkled liberally across their pages. But this seemingly progressive rhetoric is used to sell products and ideas that keep girls doing gender in appropriately feminine ways, leading them to reproduce, rather than challenge, gender hierarchies. An ad for a depilatory cream, for instance, tells girls that they are “unique, determined, and unstoppable,” so they should not “settle… for sandpaper skin.” Feminist (Read more…)
A nice peek into the relationship caretaker roles that women often find themselves in. This from Brute Reason: “Emotional labor is often invisible to men because a lot of it happens out of their sight. Emotional labor is when my friends and I carefully coordinate to make sure that nobody who’s invited to the party has drama with anyone else at the party, and then everyone comes and has a great time and has no idea how much thought went into it.Emotional labor is when I have to cope, again, with the distress I feel (Read more…)
Religion treats people like shit, the further away you are from the white male ideal, the shittier your deal will be. The recent anti-choice propaganda wave in the US caused enough whinging in wordpress blogosphere that I felt compelled to wrestle with the full-blown stupid that is the anti-choice position. . . I went to this saintly dudes page and left my usual inflamatory comments – women are people, they have rights et cetera – the mind-blowing stuff that makes the zealots wail and froth. . . But rather than approve my comment, this dipstick emails a response to me (Read more…)
Anger may be defined as an impulse, accompanied by pain, to a conspicuous revenge for a conspicuous slight directed without justification towards what concerns oneself or towards what concerns one’s friends. If this is a proper definition of anger, it must always be felt towards some particular individual, e.g. Cleon, and not “man” in general. It must be felt because the other has done or intended to do something to him or one of his friends. It must always be attended by a certain pleasure — that which arises from the expectation of revenge. – Aristotle
I’m just trying (Read more…)
The Harper Re-election Disaster Bus Totalitarianism: daily, for 11 weeks!
Get used to this.
People hate Harper and his Conservatives. We will see through his weak attempt to wedge oppositions parties by running a long election campaign because he has more money to spend.
Saturation will come fast.
We will remember how much contempt he holds for people and democracy.
We will listen to his 5 non-answers to 5 media questions each day and we will be constantly reminded of how much we can’t stand what he has done to Canada.
And we will see this. Every day:
Harper campaign (Read more…)
I moderate my comments because I once got 67 comments about carpet cleaning on one post. I rarely get comments at all, so I hate to block any I do get, but an anonymous writer sent in a comment on my recent post on Krakauer’s latest book. The comment had little to do with the post; it’s largely just misdirected vitriol, so I thought I’d share it here for some closer scrutiny. (Sorry about the swears.)
We men must boycott marriage, and never marry. Why? Because there are ZERO benefits for men in marriage. If you get married, there (Read more…)
Since I saw Into the Wild and started reading Krakauer, I haven’t stopped. But this last one took a while to open. It’s about rape on college campuses, specifically in one football-lovin’ town: Missoula.
The book is readable only because the rape scenes are reported factually and “reporter-ly” without any emotional language attached to the narrative. But the descriptions are still really detailed.
“Females between sixteen and twenty-four years old face a higher risk of being sexually assaulted than any other age group. Most victims of campus rape are preyed upon when they are in their first or second (Read more…)
It’s not about this:
the Braza Bra
It’s about arguing in favour of a woman’s right to take off her shirt.
How stupid, right?
I mean, it’s stupid that we have to argue about this and try to make it clear to everyone why it should be acceptable and actually have to argue with police who don’t know it’s been legal in Ontario for decades. But some people – mainly men, judging by the comment on various articles – are still having a hard time with it. And it’s really, really stupid that 8-year-old children and their parents have to (Read more…)
“…But I do feel a special place of contempt for the absolute army of twenty-something, socially privileged, very well educated, young white women, who speak about prostitution in terms of “sex work” and “empowerment” and this utter nonsense when they have spent years educating themselves… in order to keep themselves out of the social class of women who are most commonly used in prostitution.“And you know… formally prostituted women like myself have been delivered and expected to digest the most galling lie about our own histories, that is, we have been told that our imprisonment was liberty – that (Read more…)
Women in video games, destroying men’s lives everywhere!!!
Spending your time harassing people just doesn’t seem like productive or pro-social behavioural choices. According to a study recently undertaken it seems there is a positive correlation between unskilled players and the amount of abuse they heap on other players, especially females.
“Some male players, however — the ones who were less-skilled at the game, and performing worse relative their peers — made frequent, nasty comments to the female gamers. In other words, sexist dudes are literally losers.
In today’s online environment, alas, this is not an idle observation. According to (Read more…)
This just in…choose to not rape anyone this weekend.
August 6, 2013 Women As Meat, Volume 874,597 (1) February 19, 2015 Looking for Heroes? (0) November 27, 2012 No, Taylor Swift. No. (4) November 30, 2012 “Female Characters Are Still Sidelined, Stereotyped, and Sexualized in Popular Entertainment Content” (0)
“If you’re going to tell people the truth, make it funny or people will kill you.”
– Billy Wilder
I just watched a series of videos (65 minutes if you watch them all in one go) by Innuendo Studios that were made specifically about the backlash against Anita Sarkeesian, the feminist who questioned some of the choices made by video game creators, but the ideas in these videos can be applied to explain the backlash to any social movement, like environmentalism.
First, they look at why people (Read more…)
I went to the Jobs, Justice, Climate march on Sunday. It’s taken me a few days to think about what I think about it.
Klein so close at the pre-pre-rally.
I got to Queen’s Park way early and sat under a big tree to read and wait, and I happened to sit where the media were setting up, so right next to Naomi Klein and Bill McKibben. I missed seeing David Suzuki, and I somehow didn’t recognize Jane Fonda. But the usual crowd was there. In the pre-rally show, they faced the media with their backs to us, which felt (Read more…)
Filed under: Feminism Tagged: Feminism, History, Science, Women
More useful information for the double XX crowd. :/ *sigh*.
Filed under: Feminism Tagged: Feminism, Helpful Hints
Cootie Catcher, written and performed by Lucas Brooks, focuses on Brooks’ close encounters of the transmissible kind. Using a cootie catcher, better known to some as a fortune teller, Brooks regales the audience with tales of all the times he thought he had been exposed to one STD or another, while simultaneously exploring his sexual history.
The cootie catcher gimmick is cute, and means that the show is obviously different with each performance. Normally this would be impressive, but given that the stories in question are well-edited anecdotes from Brooks’ personal past, the effect is somewhat diminished.
So, too, (Read more…)
The continuing liberation of transgender people is a marvel to behold. We are witnessing history, as trans people and their issues become part of the mainstream. From Chelsea Manning to “Transparent” to Laverne Cox, and of course Caitlyn Jenner, transgender people and issues have never been so front and centre. I don’t do celebrity gossip so I don’t know anything about the lurid lead-up to Jenner’s coming out, but when the woman who cuts my hair asks me what I think about transgender people, I know something big is going on. There is more than one out trans person in (Read more…)